It’s never easy to get over your heartbreaks. But some experiences are worse than others. Some loves will take a long time to get over, and involve a lot of tears and sleepless nights. Here is some advice for the zodiacs who are struggling with heartbreak right now (but even if your zodiac isn’t listed below, the advice could still be valuable):
You might feel overwhelmed by the size of this storm, but you’re going to survive the damage. Just like you survived that morning when you couldn’t pull yourself out of bed. That day when you cried until your chest ached and your throat turned raw. The night when you told yourself you couldn’t take it anymore, that you weren’t strong enough to shoulder this weight anymore. Those moments when you felt like no one cared about you like you were completely on your own. Those times when you doubted whether you had what it took to survive another second of this torture. You’ve made it through every tough day you’ve ever experienced, and you’ll make it through this one too. Then the next. And the next. Until eventually, they stop being so hard. Take it one day at a time. One step at a time. One breath at a time. You’re already doing it.
If you want to establish a life that makes you truly happy, you need to accept that you’ll hurt others along your journey. Not intentionally. And not with pride. You’re not heartless. You’re not treating them terribly to punish them. You’re not doing this to them at all. You’re doing this for yourself. You’re finally choosing yourself. Although initiating a breakup or moving across the country or cutting out a toxic relative might break some hearts, you can’t let that stop you. You need to worry about yourself for once because goodness knows you’ve been tiptoeing around others for far too long. You’ve spent a lifetime placing more value on their comfort than your well-being, and it’s time for that to change. You need to remember, the loss is an essential part of growth.
When you choose yourself, you’re going to lose relationships, both anticipated and unexpected. You’re going to lose people who are uncomfortable with the fact that you’ve put yourself first, people who liked you better when you were playing pretend and keeping the peace, people who would rather believe pretty little lies that make life gentler for them and harder on you. But for every person that you lose, you can gain another. And the relationships you gain moving forward will be far more valuable. These people will accept your truth. They will support your growth. They will encourage you to keep chasing happiness and to keep choosing yourself. And those are the people you need in your corner.
The actual act of breaking up isn’t the hardest part. The hardest part is accepting that the relationship is meant to end and that you need to walk away to live your fullest, most authentic life. The hardest part is giving up on someone you hoped would be your forever, someone you pictured building a home with or have already successfully created a home with. The hardest part is stopping yourself from coming up with more and more excuses for why you should stay a little longer, why you should try a little harder, for why you belong together forever and have no business messing with the status quo. The hardest part is accepting that the best thing for you overall is the last thing you want to do — but it will be best for you in the end.