23 Tips: Overcoming Heartbreak + Starting Over

#1 Let it all out

You have to let your feelings flow, otherwise everything can come back with a vengeance later.

#2 Reflect on the relationship

What went wrong, what were you dissatisfied with, and what mistakes did you make yourself? This way, you’ll gain insights from which you can learn and show you what should be different in your next relationship.

#3 Talk to someone

Cry about your pain to your best friend, your entire group, or a completely neutral person. In serious cases, a therapist can always help.

#4 Cut off contact with your ex.

This also includes stopping following his social media activity. Only when you both start over might a friendship at least be possible.

#5 Out of sight, out of mind!

Store your ex’s photos, gifts, clothes, etc. in a box out of sight. Throwing them away is okay even if he treated you badly.

#6 Change something about yourself

To symbolize your new beginning, you can change something about your hair, go shopping and buy some great new clothes, or even make a complete change of style !

#7 Go out!

Partying and dancing are the best medicine for many people who want to get rid of their heartbreak. However, you should be careful not to indulge in any alcohol-fueled escapades, which can make the heartbreak even worse.

#8 Treat yourself to a change of scenery

If you’re already staying in the same apartment, perhaps you can simply change the color and design of your walls or rearrange some furniture. Everything will feel new!

#9 Strengthen your self-confidence

You can do this externally, for example, through flirting. But you can also make an impact internally: Write down what you like about yourself and what you’re particularly proud of in your life. You can find more tips for more self-confidence here.

#10 Plenty of time for new things

Instead of hiding away, try out whatever you feel like doing. This will help you cope with the heartbreak through distraction. A list of things that interest you can be helpful beforehand.

#11 Go on dates

When you feel ready, you can date as much as you like. This will distract you and boost your self-confidence. If that’s too soon for you, flirting on dating sites or apps is also sufficient.

#12 Spend a lot of time with your friends

They can make you laugh again and help you fight heartbreak.

#13 Learn to be happy alone

This may be difficult after a relationship, but you can learn it by focusing on your needs and happiness.

#14 Go traveling

Traveling a lot can show you many beautiful things and broaden your horizons, even if it is just short trips.

#15 Do more exercise

Working out or trying a new sport will give you new energy and greater self-confidence.

#16 Moving

If you’re finding it particularly difficult to cope with heartbreak, perhaps moving to another city can help. The new surroundings won’t remind you of your old love anymore.

#17 Write a diary

If your thoughts seem to be overwhelming you again, it can be helpful to simply write them down. Once you’ve realized the mistakes you made in your broken relationship, you can also write a letter to your future self, à la “How I Met Your Mother,” to help you act better later.

#18 Relax properly

A spa day with your best friend is just the thing to do something good for yourself and let go of all that emotional stress. Treat yourself to a massage and some beauty treatments, or relax in the thermal baths. You deserve it!

#19 Let’s clean out!

Now is the perfect time to bring order into your life. Clean out your closet and other cluttered corners, throw things away, or sell what you no longer need.

#20 Professional Development

Are you also not entirely satisfied with your current job situation? Perhaps you can further your education, change careers, or do something completely different. For a completely fresh start.

#21 Introduce new rituals

To bring stability back into your life, you need to find a new routine for yourself. Instead of doing things with your partner like before, you now meet friends weekly for dinner, watch TV shows together, or go to a dance/cooking/yoga class.

#22 Change your diet!

Have you been wanting to eat healthier for a while? Then use the start of your new life to change your diet . You’ll soon feel better and fitter overall.

#23 Focus on the future

What are realistic goals you want to achieve? What do you need to do to get there? Leave the past behind and look only forward.